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Episode 54 – How Successful People Think (and stick to their goals)

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Episode 54 - How Successful People Think (and stick to their goals)

Goals are born from visions of success, yet as the year turns, we’re poised to start anew, leaving past failures behind.

We set fresh goals with fervor, but here’s the catch – most folks abandon these aspirations within a mere month. What divides the dreamers from the achievers? A pivotal aspect is acknowledging the hefty workload involved.

Success necessitates unwavering focus, dedication, and the taxing task of managing your mind along the journey. To lend a hand, I’m exposing the primary reason goal dreamers falter, so you can sidestep these pitfalls.

However, the ace up the achiever’s sleeve is their attitude. Their triumph lies in their perspective towards the goal, with thoughts that steer their actions.

Tune in to uncover the top four thoughts that empower successful individuals to persevere until they triumph over their goals in this episode.

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Hello, my friends. Happy New Year. 

I hope 2021 has started off awesome for you. And the way it starts off awesome, as you know, is thinking awesome thoughts as I always talked about. There are a lot of reasons out there to not think awesome thoughts right now, but that’s a choice. We had a great holiday. We really did have a great holiday here. I don’t know where you are in the world. But wherever you are, I know you’re probably following different rules that have come up based on where you are with the pandemic. 

In here where I am in Ontario, Canada, we are on lockdown. We’ve been on lockdown since Boxing Day. So we had some tight rules around how many people you can see a Christmas, etc, etc. And we have put some pretty tight rules in my household anyway because I have an elderly mom who lives with us. So all of our plans kind of went sideways. Even our sort of lockdown-ish plans went sideways. We couldn’t go see our friends. We couldn’t go to the parties. We wanted to go to all that stuff. 

But it is what you make it. A lot of people say it is what it is. I don’t love that. It’s too passive-passive for me. I like it is what you make it. And we made it great. We watched movies, we hung out with the doggies, and we went for long walks. It was a fantastic little holiday. And here we are back at work. I have to admit I’m running a little slow this week. But that’s okay. I’m sure I will pick up speed as the year goes on. 

What I want to talk about today with you is how successful people think. Why do I want to do that? The beginning of the year, as we all know is the time when we all try to set new goals. We think clean slate, fresh start. 2020 is behind us, which was a shitstorm of a year. And so we’re like, what do I want to change? What do I want to start? What habits do I want to create? What goals do I want to achieve in 2021? And it’s normal to be thinking like that. 

So depending on who you are, setting the goal isn’t always the hard part. I know that setting a goal isn’t easy, especially if you’re doing it properly. If you’re doing it in a nice, rich, fulsome way, which I talk about a lot and I’ve talked about this on this podcast before, and I’ll be talking about it again. But once you set the goal, it’s about sticking to it and making it happen. And so that’s really why I want to talk about how successful people think. Because I want to talk about how to stick to your career goal, or whatever goal you set for yourself.

So how do the people who are able to stick to those goals think in order to allow them to stay stuck to their goals? First things first, if you don’t have a goal in place, and if you don’t have a clear plan in place for 2021, then I highly recommend that you set one. I always say if you don’t have a goal, any kind of goal for anything you’re trying to achieve, but in particular, for your career, then you are not making a really good return on all of those hours that you are spending at work. 

We think that the return we’re supposed to get is a paycheck. No. There is way more return to be had and you can do it by really having a clear career goal and having a clear career plan in place. Wow, that’s a tongue twister. 

That’s why today, knowing that a huge portion of people set a goal for themselves at the beginning of the year, I want to talk about helping you stick to those goals. And I want to talk about how you need to think to stick to those goals. Now, you might be asking me, Why are we talking about what I need to think? Why don’t you just tell me what I need to do? Well, if you know anything about me, then you know that it’s all about thinking. It’s all about cognitive behavior. Your thinking drives your actions. 

A lot of the time, we believe that external circumstances, or what other people say drive our feelings. We sometimes blame our actions on external circumstances. We think that actions alone will change our results, but they don’t. Everything starts with how you think. If you want to take an action, if you want to take any kind of consistent action, you have to explore what you’re thinking now that’s preventing you from taking that action, and what you need to think in the future to be able to take the action that you want.

Just an easy example. Let’s say you’re getting up to do a big presentation of some kind, and the thoughts that you have about doing that presentation are I suck as a presenter, I’m terrible at this. If that’s what you’re telling yourself, how great of a presentation do you think you’re going to give? Versus telling yourself, I want to get better at this. This is a chance for me to practice getting better at this. Those are thoughts and you don’t have to go all the way to I’m a great presenter. I’m the most awesome. I can do this. 

Sometimes those thoughts are believable. But if you just went to something really simple and believable instead of saying, I suck at this, or I’m terrible at this, you start thinking, I want to get better at this. This is a chance for me to practice. Practice makes perfect. All of those things, if you think that instead, what will the impact be do you think to how you show for the presentation? So it all starts with how you’re thinking. 

What I want to offer you today are three types of thoughts that people who stick to their goals think. This comes from the work I do with my clients, all the experience I have dealing with people, my own career, my own trials and failures, missteps with my own habits, and my own mindset shift that I’m trying to make. And certainly, it comes from all the coach training that I’ve done, as well as all the reading that I’ve done. So I want to offer you these three thoughts and perhaps, help you make some shifts that are going to help you stick to your goal. 

The very first thought I want to offer you is, are you ready? I’m focused on the big picture. Or I’m staying focused on the big picture. Or you can make it however you want. Like I’m going to focus on the long game or whatever works for you. That idea helps you get out of the minutiae and focus on the trend. 

Where this comes up is a lot of the time, people set a goal. They’ll set a goal like I want to be a less controlling manager. And then the first situation comes up where someone comes to them and asks a question or presents a problem, and right away they go right into solving the problem for that person and telling them what to do. What happens is the minute they see that they have “failed,” the minute they see they haven’t really done what they set out to do, they start thinking, I can’t do this. That, of course, deflates all their energy to get it done. Sooner or later, after two or three missteps, or failures, or whatever doesn’t work out for them, they stop trying, they stop focusing on the goal. 

So I want to encourage you to think about the big picture. I want to give you a story that takes it out of the personal. When I started working with McDonald’s, I started working from the advertising agency side. So McDonald’s was my client at first. I did it before I worked there. And they were obsessively focused on daily comp sales. What I mean by daily comp sales, is how today’s sales compare to the same day last year. So we would get daily comp sales reports. And we knew that if the comp sales were down that day, it was going to be a shit show. 

We were going to get calls from everywhere because it wasn’t just one person calling like the president or the head of marketing or whatever. We had franchisees. Everybody would be freaking out. What’s going on? Why are we damn? And then, if the sales were up that day, we knew that we could focus on getting our work done. It was a really chaotic, manic way to work. You couldn’t plan for the future. You couldn’t plan long-term because you’re constantly spending all of your time reacting to what was happening that day. 

As an advertising agency, and certainly, the people in the marketing department would say, Look, guys. We can’t just react to every little thing that happens every day, because there are so many extenuating factors that go into why comp sales may be up or down on a given day. It could be the weather last year versus the weather this year It could be a holiday. It could be some event that happened on a national basis or in a particular region or something. It could be anything that was going on that would impact those sales. 

So we would always say to people we need to focus on the big picture. We need to focus on the trend. Don’t focus on the day-to-day. We need to focus on the trends. We can make decisions on the trends because when we focus on this minutiae, we don’t have an ultimate vision of where we want to go. We’re working month to month. Versus trying to drive the brand in a specific area. 

Ultimately, what would happen is that we were thinking. We were doing really poorly as a brand at the time. This was the beginning of the 2000s when McDonald’s would work this way across all countries, not just Canada. It wasn’t just agreeing with their advertising agencies. But once leadership changed at McDonald’s, they realized that we needed to focus on the bigger picture, and we need to react to the trends. That was one of the things that started changing the trajectory of the performance of McDonald’s when they started making a comeback later on in the 2000s and the early 2010s. 

I think when you think of it from a business standpoint, you see it makes so much sense to focus on the big picture. But when we look at ourselves, we don’t think about it that way. So I’ll give you my own story. This is not a career focused on a goal. I’ve got one to unprompted productivity, but I am on this weight loss journey. And I can manage my mind way easier on so many different things. But I struggle. I struggle. And this is a story I tell myself. I struggle with managing my mind around weight loss. 

So now I’ve got a full-time coach on this thing as well to help me through it. But one of the things I realized was that I was doing the same thing as McDonald’s. Every day I would step on the scale and if the scale went up, it was going to be a bad day. If the scale went down, it was going to be a good day. This is not brain surgery. It’s a very simple thought that’s hard to think. I’m going to give you four thoughts today that are super simple and obvious but are so hard to believe. 

It’s about practicing and believing it is so hard to get your head wrapped around. So what I needed to do to get my head out of that reaction, am I going to have a good day or a bad day based on what was happening on the scale? I needed to get my head out of that way of thinking, and the only way I could do that was by focusing on the big picture. I’m only going to react to trends. So that’s what I want to offer you. When I was thinking about it, and I thought about this McDonald’s story, I’m like, Oh my God, that’s what I’m doing. I’m reacting to daily sales. 

When I look at the scale, and every day, when it goes up, it’s a bad day. Down, it’s a good day. It shouldn’t mean anything. It’s just math. So what I started doing was putting my marketing practice to work. And I have now this basic stats chart that I put together, where I have my goals daily, monthly, quarterly, annually. What’s the target? What’s my performance? And then I track it so even if I have a bad day, I can see that the month is still tracking well, or the year is still tracking well. 

This is where math goes a bit too far. But I even have this thing where I’m like, for instance, we are 1.5% of the way through the year. So at 1.5% of the way through the year, I have already hit 6.5% of my goal. That’s what I’m focusing on. I’m focusing on the bigger numbers. When I see that the numbers or the trends are not going in the right direction or I’m making trending behaviors that are taking me in the wrong direction, that’s when I need to react. 

So the first thought I want to offer you is to focus on the big picture. Or you could say, I’m not going to focus on the day-to-day, or I’m going to play the long game, or it’s smarter to play the long game. Whatever kind of iteration of that idea works for you. I offer you to find a thought in there that works for you and that you can believe 100%, that’s going to take you out of worrying about every single failure you’re going to make on the way to achieving your goal because the only way to ultimately fail and truly fail is to quit. You don’t want to quit. I don’t care how many times you fall flat on your face, and you blow it and you blow it and you blow it. If you keep getting back up, you are going to reach your goal. That is the key. That’s the first thought. 

Second thought. This is what I want to offer you – I’m just figuring this out. I’m okay, I’m just figuring this out. Where does this thought come from? It’s about giving yourself the space not to be perfect. And we’re like, Oh, yeah. I know, I know. I’m not trying to be a perfect kind of stuff. We say that. I say that. But we still try to be perfect. We are still judging ourselves. If you are judging yourself in any way, then you’re trying to be perfect; more perfect than you are. You are not giving yourself space if you are experiencing self-judgment, or shame in any way. So if you feel judgment and shame, then you are not giving yourself space. That’s something that you can start to reflect on and observe in yourself. 

I will give you my weight loss example. I’ll carry that forward. But then I’ll give you another one, more of a career-oriented one. Here’s the other thing. As part of my weight loss journey, I have been eating on a food plan. Now my food protocol is just I plan what I’m going to eat in the morning. And then I just self-assess at the end of the day. It’s not like I’m trying to be on a keto or Mediterranean diet, or anything like that. I’m just trying to be able to follow a plan like track what I eat in the morning and then track it at night as well. 

Sometimes I don’t eat what’s on my plan. What I used to do was I would beat the crap out of myself for not following my plan and for not being perfect in my plans. My big weakness was eating after dinner. So I’d be like, Why are you so weak? You’re great at coaching people and you’re great at your business, but you’re so weak here. You can’t manage your mind. What’s wrong with you? I would beat the shit out of myself constantly. What would end up happening is in the morning, I would wake up and automatically start stressing out about whether or not I was going to be eating food after dinner. 

I would start the day stressed out and so by the time I would eat dinner, I would be so wound up and so stressed, I couldn’t even give myself space to manage my mind because I was so wound up. Because I was so stressed, I would emotionally eat right away. But a strange thing happened when I had this very simple realization that I needed to give myself space and not judge myself for not being perfect. Right away, the cravings went away. It’s so weird. I would wake up in the morning going, this is my plan. And whatever I eat today is going to be fine. But this is the plan. Stick as close as you can to the plan.

First of all, I ended up sticking close to the plan, because I’m not worried about whether or not I’m sticking to it. That’s the first thing that is so counterintuitive. The second thing was when I do go off the plan like I have the extra piece of bread or my new favorite thing is a spoonful of Nutella because I think it’s like a Diet Coke with a Big Mac. It’s like a spoonful of Nutella is so much better than having it as Nutella on bread. So I have a spoonful of Nutella. But the key thing is trying to assess why I am eating it. I’m making a note of it. Is this important to me? Should I be putting a spoonful of Nutella on my plan? Is this something I want to do for lunch? I just really reflect on why I did it. So I’m learning from it from a place of curiosity versus a place of self-flagellation. 

I just want to offer you that if you could think of a thought like, I’m okay, I’m just figuring this out versus you’re weak. You can’t handle this. What’s wrong with you? And if you can get to a place where you believe like, I’m okay, I’m just figuring this out. I’m going to get this eventually. It’s fine. Every day is a learning. I can do this. If you start going there, you’re going to get there. It’s the same thing with my productivity plan. Because you have the same thing. 

Actually, when I wake up on Mondays, I go through my whole week, and I plan out every minute, including all my free time, and what I want to achieve that week, and sometimes I only achieve 80% of my productivity planning. In fact, most days I achieve 80% of my productivity plan and I would beat the shit out of myself for that. Like, what’s wrong with you? Like, why is this taking you so long? Like, you don’t have your integrity site in place because you can’t keep your promises to yourself. These are the things that I would tell myself, and I get so stressed out. 

Then by the end of the week, I would completely not even look at my productivity plan because I felt like such a failure. Whereas now, I’m like, Woohoo, I did 80% of my plan. And as I review my plan every day, I start to assess what I need to do. I always try to over-commit myself, maybe I need to say no to more things. I need to give myself more space. I have to plan more makeup time in my calendar. I’m learning as I go. 

Rather than first of all, focusing on the 20% of the time, where I’m 20% of the things that I’m not doing, I focus on the fact that I did 80% of my stuff. That’s pretty awesome, too. What did I learn from only achieving 80% of my stuff and what can I do differently next time? It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that. It doesn’t have to become personal and shaming. So if you can just think, I’m okay, I’m figuring this out. I’m getting better all the time. Then you’re going to be able to stick to your plan. 

You’re not going to start to feel like a failure and let go of your plan because you’re sick of feeling like a failure all the time. You are going to mess up. That is part of the gig of trying to reach a goal. There’s going to be tons and tons of messy missteps and bad feelings. You step in it, you go backward a few steps. One step forward, two steps back, and then three steps forward. There is going to be a lot of that so just let it be there. You don’t have to make it personal. That’s the second thought. The first one is to focus on the big picture. The second one, I’m okay, I’m just figuring this out. 

The third one is actually a question. I don’t actually like to put thoughts as questions, but we can figure out the right thought for you. But I think the thought would get more specific and less like a question when you know exactly what your situation is. But here’s the question. What would the future version of me do? I want to explain this concept a little bit to you.

I want you to think about yourself, say five years ago. What can you do now? That’s not even a problem for you now. It’s so easy, but five years ago when you thought about it, you were like, oh my god, I can’t do this. Let’s just go back to that presentation example. I always go to that because people are so nervous to present. So five years ago, you were not a great presenter in your mind. But today, you nailed it, and people look forward to your presentations. You look forward to your presentations. 

If five years ago, you said to yourself, I know that five years from now, I’m going to be awesome at this. I am going to solve this. I’m going to be the best presenter ever in five years. When you think about presenting now you’re like, I’m excited to present. This is going to be fun. I’m going to make this so great, so entertaining, or so informative, or the best presentation ever. Whatever you think now that you’re awesome. You could have thought those things five years ago. 

We didn’t think those things five years ago, because we said, I don’t have any evidence that that’s true. Well, so what? Just because you don’t have evidence, that something is true, doesn’t mean you can’t think it. I don’t have evidence that I’m going to reach my goal weight. In fact, I have a shit ton of evidence that says I won’t reach it because I have failed so many times in the past to be able to do this. In fact, I had a goal last year of 50 pounds by 50. And I didn’t get there. But I consider that part of this journey. 

Even if I don’t get to my goal at the end of this month, at the end of this year, I’m going to get somewhere. I feel very sure of that now. And what I believe is the future version of myself is the 140-pound version of myself out there. She’s there. And she’s telling me that she did it. And it’s not that hard. And food is no big deal. She has all these thoughts. I know how she thinks about food. I know that she loves herself no matter what. She has all these great thoughts. I can think about those things now. I can start practicing thinking about those things.

Now, let me give you an example of a client I spoke to yesterday. I actually spoke to a couple of clients on this topic yesterday. But this one is going back to work after 18 months off on a mat leave. I won’t tell you why she got 18 months off but she was 18 months off work. She went on mat leave pre-pandemic. Now she’s going back and she’s really nervous. She’s so worried about going back. There have been changes at her office. Different people are there now and different people are in charge now. 

She doesn’t know whom she’s working with. All these people who have been hired, some of them have more experience than her. So she’s really worried about going back. But when she was there before, she was a high performer. She did her job well and all the things. But she thinks like, Oh, my head’s not in it. It’s going to be fuzzy. I’m not well-practiced. It’s going to take me time because I’m a new mom now. She has all these thoughts that are holding her back from showing up as her best self when she goes back to work now.

You know and I know she’s going to get to work when she goes back. And there might be a couple of days of wobbliness, but she’s going to be fine. She’s going to get into the groove. She’s going to get her work brain back. She is going to go back to being the dependable, resourceful, innovative employee that she was before. And all of this time spent worrying is going to be for nothing. That’s the future version of her. She’s going to be like, Oh, yeah. I got this. Six months from now, she’s like, I don’t even know why I was worried. She could think that now. 

She doesn’t have to spend all this time worrying about all these things that she can’t control. She just has to get her mind straight. And she could do that by saying to herself, I’m going to be fine. I worked this out. I figured this out. I’m going to be as good as I was. It’s going to take me time to get my work brain back versus just being in mommy brain. But I’m going to get it back. She can start to access that future evidence now. She doesn’t have to wait for concrete actions to be able to decide what she wants to think in the future. 

Are you following me? That’s really what I think is a great exercise. It doesn’t have to be big things. You could try it out. What would the future version of me do? What would the version of me who’s already reached the goal, and got past the hurdle, whatever it is, do? What would the future 140-pound version of Mel think about eating this spoonful of Nutella right now? She would think, If you want it, eat it. That’s what she would think. It doesn’t matter because you’re going to reach your goal anyway. It doesn’t matter. That’s what she would think. 

What would be the version of Mel who always does everything on her to-do list and think about missing things on our to-do list? She’d say, Yeah, it happens. Understand why and make some changes next time. That’s what she would say. That’s what she would think. So apply that to your goal and your situation. What does the future version of you who’s achieved your goal think when you are facing tough hurdles, when you’re facing failures, when you’re facing missteps along the way?

The very last thing that I want to offer you is my favorite one. All of these are ones that I use all the time, and they have been making huge shifts in my business life. And now they’re making huge shifts in my self-care and my personal health life. I work out every day now. It’s not stressful. I am sticking to my plan. I am making progress. I am 6.5% of my way to my goal of 1.4% of the year. And that’s on top of last year. These are amazing thoughts that could really work for you if you find the version of these thoughts that works for you. And you need to just practice believing them.

When I say practice believing them, I’m going to do a little sidebar here. Practice believing them doesn’t mean that you pick a thought that is so out of the realm of believability and you just say it to yourself every day. I don’t mean that if you pick a thought that you don’t believe it’s not going to work. You have to pick a thought that you believe. But one of the things I talk to my clients about is things like bridge thoughts. 

So if you want to believe It’s okay, I’m just figuring it out, but you don’t believe that yet, what could you say yourself that could get you there? So if right now, you’re like, I’m such a loser, I’m so weak, and you want to get to I’m just figuring this out. Maybe there’s a thought in there between those two things that you could believe 100%. Like I don’t have to be perfect, or one day at a time, or something that’s going to save yourself, that’s going to snap you out of that negativity, and you’re going to be able to believe. 

Once that works, then you can work your way up to the next thought and the next thought and the next thought until you get to, I’m just figuring this out, or what would the future version of me do? Or if you want the Nutella, just eat it. It’s not a big deal. Who cares? Let’s not make this a big drama. What is going to take for you to believe now so that you can ultimately get to that goal? These are the kinds of things that we talk about all the time in coaching. We fight to find the thoughts that are going to get you to where you want to be. 

So this last thought is one of my favorites. It came out of a coaching session that I was in, actually, around weight loss. And the thought is, I don’t have to believe that. I love this thought. Your brain is designed to feed you self-doubt. It’s like in a self-doubt loop sometimes. Depending on the topic, it might be very loud, or in some cases, it doesn’t show up as much. 

Let’s say, that even if you think you’re the best presenter in the world, sometimes your brain will still feed you that doubt. Like, what if something goes wrong? What if everything’s not going to work properly? What if the tech blows up? It starts to throw out these ideas so that you can get prepared or something. Sometimes I’m talking to a client. And after my session, I thought to myself, Did I do my best work there? I should have asked her this, or I should have asked her that. And then I think to myself, You know what? That’s just self-doubt. 

What I’ve learned to do even in my 140-pound weight loss goal, most of the time, I think I’m going to make it and then sometimes a thought creeps up that says, You’re not going to do it. You’re not going to be able to do this. You’re going to fail like last time. These thoughts just get fed to me through my brain. But here’s the thing that you need to know. Just because your brain feeds you thoughts doesn’t mean you have to believe them. 

Your brain can feed you the thought that you’re beautiful just the way you are. You’re perfect just the way you are. And then you decide you’re not going to believe that. Oh no, I’m not. It’s much easier for us to not believe the good stuff about ourselves. But what if your brain fed you a thought like, you’re not good enough to do this, you can’t lose this way, you can’t do that presentation, you can’t get that promotion, you can’t ask for what you want, who do you think you are? 

Your brain is going to feed you this stuff because what it’s trying to do is keep you safe from taking a risk because when you take a risk, it doesn’t know what’s going to happen. You might feel a negative emotion, or something bad might happen. And even if something good happens, we don’t know how that’s going to feel. Your brain doesn’t know all this kind of stuff. What it’s trying to do is keep you safe and small all the time. 

So when it feeds you this self-doubt like who do you think you are, what you can just say is, Yeah, I see that thought. I don’t have to believe it. I’m going to believe this, instead. I’m going to believe that I am going to reach my goal. I’m going to believe that everything is going to be okay. I’m going to believe that I’m a great coach. I’m going to believe that I’m going to get all my stuff done today. I’m going to believe that I’m going to get that promotion. I’m going to open that business. Whatever it is that you’re trying to do, your brain is going to serve you self-doubt. 

Even when I was really senior making multiple six figures at McDonald’s, I still had days where I felt like an impostor. Do you know why? Because that’s what your brain is designed to do. It’s designed to feed you self-doubt. So all you have to say is, Yeah, I don’t believe that. Of course, I deserve this job. I’m like, this is McDonald’s. There are a lot of smart people here. They hired me. And I’m freaking good at it. So that’s all you have to say. I don’t have to believe that I wasn’t good at my job just because my brain would feed me that. So it’s your choice. You always have that choice. 

So those are the four thoughts that I really want to offer you. I’m focused on the big picture. Don’t get into the minutiae. Don’t give up after the first, second, third, or 10th failure. You are focusing on the big picture. You’re reacting to trends. Your thought is, I’m okay, I’m just figuring this out. So give yourself space not to be perfect, and let go of shame and judgment. You don’t need that stuff. That doesn’t help you. It actually makes things worse. 

Another thought is, what would the future version of me do? So what would the version of you do? Who’s actually achieved your goal? What would they think? What would they be thinking in this circumstance when things come up? And the other thought is, I don’t have to believe that. Just because your brain serves you bullshit doesn’t mean that you have to believe it. 

So those were my four thoughts. If you practice any of those two, and I wouldn’t start with all of them all at once, you can just pick one and try that one for a while, and then add another one and then add another one. You don’t have to do it all at once. I think about this as a progressive improvement, which is like when you’re trying to do exercises, or anything else, or playing piano. You don’t wake up in the morning never having played piano before, and all of a sudden, wake up and start playing Mozart. No. You play scales, and you play them terribly for a long time until you get better and better and better, and then you’re playing songs. 

You don’t wake up never having run before running a marathon. No. You start walking, and then you work up to running, and then maybe you do some strength training. It takes some time. You’re building up slowly, progressive improvements. It’s the same with your brain. You’re going to work it. Work in that brain, working it out, just like you would work out anything else. 

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I can’t believe how much I’ve talked today. Sometimes I just sit here and yammer, yammer, yammer, but you know, I love this stuff. I want to help you so much. I want to help you get out of your own way. That is the biggest thing. There’s nothing more stressful than worrying about your career especially when you’re worrying needlessly. I’d rather you took that energy and used it to get a really good return on all those hours at work, versus spending it on worrying and stress and being stuck in all the crap. So come to me and let me help you. And anything I can do, I will do. 

So that’s it, my friends, I will talk to you next week. Bye for now.



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